What’s At Stake If You Don’t Self Validate?

In our relentless pursuit of success and happiness, it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking validation from external sources. 


But have you ever stopped to consider what’s truly at stake if you continue down this path? 


In this eye-opening blog post, we’ll explore the allure of external validation, the underlying fears that drive us to seek it, and the transformative power of internal self-validation. 


Buckle up and get ready for a journey of self-discovery as we uncover what’s truly at stake and why embracing your own brilliance is the key to personal and professional fulfillment.



Examples of External Validation

Let’s begin by shining a light on some common examples of seeking external validation.


  • You have an exciting new product or idea, but you can’t move forward without seeking approval from your networking groups or mentors.

  • The thought of sharing your insights on social media fills you with anxiety, fearing judgment or negative comments from others.

  • You constantly rely on others’ opinions when making important business decisions, doubting your own judgment and expertise.

  • The fear of vulnerability and judgment prevents you from fully embracing visibility, holding you back from speaking up or showcasing your expertise.

At this point, you’re most likely saying, “Eek. Yes, that’s me. I do that.” AND, you’re also now wondering, “But WHY?”

Understanding External Validation


What drives us to seek validation from others? 


At the core, it often stems from fear—fear of rejection, criticism, or not being enough.


We seek external validation as a safety net, a way to mitigate these fears and gain a sense of acceptance and belonging.


However, relying on external validation means giving away our power, tethering our worth to the opinions of others.


Embracing Internal Self Sourcing

The path to liberation lies in internal self-validation. When we learn to trust ourselves, embrace our uniqueness, and tap into our own brilliance, we reclaim our power. 


Internal self-sourcing allows us to make decisions aligned with our values, step into our authenticity, and navigate our journeys with confidence.


What's at Stake if You Don't Self Source

In other words, breaking free from external validation is essential for your freedom and fulfillment.


If you continue seeking validation from others, you’ll remain trapped and unable to fully embrace your authentic self. The consequences for your life and business are profound, and it’s crucial to recognize what you stand to lose if you don’t learn to self-source validation.



Here’s what’s at stake:



  • Freedom to Be Yourself: 

  • By relying on external validation, you compromise your true identity. You become a reflection of others’ opinions rather than expressing your unique voice. Embracing self-validation allows you the freedom to fully embody who you are, without the limitations of seeking approval.

  • Personal Empowerment: 

  • When you constantly seek validation, your power becomes contingent on others’ opinions. You give away your personal power, preventing yourself from making decisions and taking actions aligned with your inner truth. Self-sourcing validation empowers you to trust your intuition and step into your full potential.

  • Stifled Growth and Innovation: 

  • Seeking validation from others can lead to stagnation and missed opportunities. If you constantly rely on external approval, you may hold back on launching new products, sharing innovative ideas, or taking calculated risks. By self-validating, you unlock the doors to growth, innovation, and exponential success.

  • Limited Authentic Connections:

  • External validation can hinder your ability to form genuine connections. When you seek validation from others, you may attract relationships built on superficial approval rather than authentic connections. Self-sourcing validation allows you to attract like-minded individuals who appreciate and embrace your true self.

  • Fulfillment and Joy: 

  • True fulfillment comes from aligning with your own values, passions, and purpose. Seeking validation externally prevents you from fully experiencing the joy that comes from honoring your authentic self. Self-validation brings a deep sense of fulfillment and contentment that cannot be achieved through external validation alone.


Redefine Your Relationship with Validation

To dive even deeper into this transformative topic, I invite you to listen to “Becoming Podcast Episode 6: VALIDATION” by clicking HERE or watch the video by clicking below.


In this episode, you’ll discover a wealth of additional examples that highlight the various ways external validation-seeking shows up in our lives. 


Moreover, you’ll gain invaluable tips on how to shift towards self-sourcing validation and embrace your authentic self fully.


Remember, your brilliance and worth are already within you. All you need to do is trust yourself, and let your true self shine!


It All Depends on This

 Now that you’ve read this blog post, listened to the podcast episode, are you hungry for more?


 I’m thrilled to announce the release of my brand new e-book, “Go From External Seeking to Self Sourcing!”


It is a comprehensive guide designed to take you even deeper into the topic of validation. Packed with fresh insights and powerful tools, it’s your roadmap to making sustainable change towards embracing self approval and unlocking your true potential.


Click the link HERE to purchase your copy and together let’s unleash the fearless self-sourcer in you!


Don’t forget the high stakes involved.


It’s time to break free from the addiction to external validation and begin the journey of self-sourcing validation. 


Your freedom, fulfillment, and the success of your life and business depend on it.